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Meet Jim & Sander
Location: Delft, Netherlands
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**Our Dream for a Family: Your Irreplaceable Role in Our Lives**
Hello! We are Sander (30) and Jim (32), and we’re incredibly grateful that you’re taking a moment to read our story. Nine years ago, we found each other, and since then, we’ve built a cozy home in Delft, the Netherlands, surrounded by family, friends, and our love for each other. What brings us joy are the simple things: a walk along the beach, discovering a new city, or just being together at home. Our lives are filled with warmth and happiness, and our greatest dream is to share this with a child.
**Our First Meeting: The Start of Our Journey**
We met when Jim was 24 and Sander was 22. Jim lived in Delft, and Sander was from Heerde, about an hour and a half away. After months of texting and calling, the time came for us to meet in person. Our first date was incredibly exciting; we met at Jim’s place and decided to go to the beach together afterward. We were so nervous! We’ll never forget that day. Since that first meeting, we’ve been inseparable, and even simple things like grocery shopping, working out, or just watching a good Netflix series feel special because we do them together. These small moments make us happy. People often say we’re like Yin and Yang – a perfect match for each other.
**Why We Chose Surrogacy: Our Deepest Wish**
As a gay couple, we didn’t always think starting a family would be possible. Both of us had to learn to embrace who we are, and in our teenage years, the dream of having children seemed almost unreachable. But everything changed when we met each other. We soon realized that we wanted to build a family together. Every vacation, as we enjoyed the beach, we’d talk about what it would be like to have children, how it would bring something special to our lives. Even though we were happy with everything we’d achieved – great jobs, a lovely home – the desire to have children kept coming up. It’s hard to put into words, but it’s a longing to build a family and to share love in a new way beyond just each other.
Although the Netherlands is a wonderful country, options for same-sex couples are still limited. It sometimes felt impossible, until we met friends who had built their own family through surrogacy. Their experience and support made our dream suddenly feel realistic. We appreciate the diversity and inclusivity we’ve found in Canada – values that are important to us and give us a feeling of openness and safety. This is certainly a message we hope to pass on to our child.
Surrogacy gives us the chance to be involved in our child’s life from the very beginning, to share in every step of their growth. We want to give our child not only a loving home but also a place where they can see themselves in both of us. Now that we have six embryos (three from Jim and three from Sander), we feel so close to our goal – a family life filled with love and connection.
**Why We Could Be a Great Match for You**
We understand that surrogacy can be a unique and sometimes challenging journey, and we want to make your experience as a surrogate one that’s filled with warmth, respect, and sincere appreciation. We are spontaneous, open, and have a positive outlook. Our friends would describe us as down-to-earth and loving – “just be yourself” is a motto that suits us well. We’re looking forward to sharing this journey with you and are here to support you in a way that feels right for you, creating a bond where you always feel valued.
After the birth, we’d love to keep in touch occasionally, but we respect your space and freedom in this. You will always have a special place in our hearts, and we will never forget the vital role you played in making our dream come true. You made this journey possible, and you will always be part of our lives – something we’ll never forget.
**Our Dream for Parenthood: A Warm and Loving Family**
For us, it’s essential that our child sees both of us as their dad and that we’re equally involved in their life. Sometimes, it’s hard when people ask who the “real” dad will be, because we both want to share the same role and mean the same to our child. We want our children to grow up in a place where they feel safe and loved and know they can always come to us.
Sander grew up in a small village, where he felt a lot of warmth from his family. He fondly remembers afternoons with his mom, having tea and cookies after school. Jim grew up in Delft and loved spending time playing outside, building forts, and organizing get-togethers with friends. These values and memories are what we want to pass on to our child: the comfort of a cup of tea after school, along with the freedom and joy of outdoor play. We dream of a future where we can explore nature with our child – walking through the forest, enjoying the beach breeze, and finding joy in being outside.
We are proud uncles to Swen and Evi and love watching their hockey games, sharing these small moments with them. Babysitting, having a sleepover at our place – we find so much joy in these little things.
**Thank You for Reading Our Story**
Thank you for taking the time to read our story and getting to know us a little. We hope our story has given you a good picture of who we are and why this journey means so much to us. We look forward to making this special dream a reality together with you and to forming a loving family.
With all our love and gratitude,
Sander and Jim
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**Our Journey to a Miracle – with a Touch of Dutch Warmth**
Hello there! We’re Sander and Jim, a couple from the Netherlands, and we have a dream: to build a loving family together. It may sound cliché, but we already have everything – a cozy home in beautiful Delft, wonderful friends and family around us – except for that one special miracle. And now, with a bit of luck, we’re hoping that maybe you’re the one who can help make this dream come true.
We both work in healthcare as nurses and managers in a nursing home, where we learn every day how much a small gesture, a smile, or a bit of patience can mean to someone. This same warmth and care are what we want to give to our own child. We dream of cozy moments together on the couch, laughing at life’s little quirks, and of long walks in the forest or by the sea, where our child feels safe and loved.
For us, surrogacy is not only a way to become parents but also a chance to be part of our child’s life from the very beginning. The thought that someone might help us on this journey moves us deeply. We know how much courage, love, and commitment it takes to walk this path with us, and we appreciate it immensely.
We hope you see us as genuine, warm people who respect your choices and personal space. To us, you’re not just a “means” to have a child but an invaluable part of our story. You’re the one who can make all the difference, and we will always cherish that.
Thank you for reading and considering us. We look forward to possibly embarking on this special journey together – with a big smile and a heart full of gratitude.
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