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Meet G
Location: Vaughan, ON
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All my life I have dreamed of having a family. As a young boy living in rural China, I grew up in a modest home with a loving mother, father, and siblings whom I’m still close to. I tutor my nephew in English every night after work over skype and I spend hours online chatting with my mom, staying close even though we live so far from each other.
For me, having a family is a special challenge. I’m gay, and in China it’s almost impossible to have a child as a gay man as surrogacy is strictly prohibited. As a young man in my 20s I moved to the seaside city of Qingdao to pursue my career in civil engineering. The more I worked and saved, the more I realized that in order to live openly as a gay man, to find my partner and fulfill my dream of having a family, I would have to leave China. As my as it broke my heart to leave my family, friends and life behind in my home country, I was driven to move so that I could be who I am and pursue the life and love that I truly want.
I set my sights on Canada and worked tirelessly to save the money and learn English so that I could successfully start my new life in my new country. I immigrated in 2015, found a job as a project coordinator for a construction company and began saving and planning for the family I hope to have. I am so privileged to have created a strong community of friends, my chosen family who are always ready to support me, and to have found an incredible egg donor who has generously offered to help me. I’m so excited to meet my new son or daughter and I am excitedly preparing my life and my hoe for the family I have worked so hard to create. Will you be the miracle I am waiting for? Will you be my surrogate?
When my baby is born, my plan is to take 18 months parent leave. My friends will stay with me in a rotation to help me with daily activities. If they couldn’t make it, and I couldn’t manage by myself, I will hire someone to help me. I already spoke with a few nannies in the neighborhood, who have very good reputations. They would be very happy to help me if needed. Even though my parents couldn’t travel here to be with me, they did remind me that I could always go back to them, and they would provide all the help and support that the child needs.
I will be so excited to teach my child about every holiday, Chinese, Jamaican, Canadian, Jewish, Muslim and you name it. Rich culture exposures, great food, beautiful traditional outfits, I will learn and grow with my child together. I would be so excited to bring my child back to China to experience the authentic Chinese New Year, surrounded by families and friends celebrating our love together.
When I think about my baby, I can’t help immersing myself in love and joy. The little person loves and trusts me unconditionally, and I will in return learn and practice to be the best father as I could be. I will always cuddle my baby to sleep, read stories, and wake up together. That myst be the most beautiful thing in the world. I am also prepared to be challenged by the little person. As all parents know, your kids always outsmart you!
When I imagine the relationship with my surrogate, I hope we could have open and honest discussions about our expectations and boundaries. It is hard to say if we are to become best friends or keep a comfortable distance. I am pretty flexible with whatever relationship that we can make it work. I will always treat everyone in the way that I want to be treated.
After the birth of my child, ideally, I would like to stay in touch with my surrogate. I understand there is and will be a special connection between the surrogate and my child. To preserve this special connection is quite meaningful to me. I think the child would also appreciate the opportunity to explore their own story. I will respect the surrogate’s preferences and figure out a best way to stay connected. With all the technology available, I don’t think this will be too difficult.
When it comes to surrogacy, I am most anxious about the health of the surrogate and my baby. There are so many unpredictabilities in pregnancy Every step of the way is about two lives of the surrogate and the baby. In order to keep my anxiety at the bay, I chose the best fertility clinic to help me navigate this journey.
My entire family is looking forward to meeting my future child. They want to spend time with the child teaching the child to speak our language, learn our culture, and most importantly – spoil him or her with the most delicious food!
Uncle Kenton! My boyfriend, Kenton, feels excited about the adventure that we are going to embark on. He comes from a big family, and definitely wants to see me thriving in Canada and creating my own family. He is ready to jump in whenever I need him. I can’t do this without his support.
Auntie Laura and Dilya! Laura and Dilya can’t wait to babysit. They live just 30 min away from me, and they are my chosen family in Canada. Dilya wants to read stories to the child, and Laura wants to them for hiking, skating, and other cool activities. they are always available to me, especially in this journey to create my family.
Fun Facts About Me!
I’m bilingual! I speak both English and Chinese Mandarin fluently, I also spoke my local dialect and a bit of Portuguese. I think my kid will grow up as a polyglot.
A Big Modern Family – my baby will have all the love from my families in China, and also lots of love from my chosen families here in Canada. They came from different walks of life and different culture. I am sure he/she would grow up as a wonderful human being.
I learnt so much after moving to Canada – swimming, tennis, skiing, skating and driving!
My hobbies – Make some splashes in the swimming pool, cook a good meal for my loved ones, read a book or enjoy a good movie.
My Favourite Things!
Movies – A Beautiful Day in the Neighbourhood and Chicago
Books – The Midnight Library and Homo Deus
TV Shows – Breaking Bad, Killing Eve and all reality TV shows
Place – Swimming Pools and where my family and friends are.
Food – Dumplings and noodles
Can’t Live Without – Family, friends, good food and good books.
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