How much contact will I have with the surrogate mother
When a match is made, the level of interaction between the Surrogate and Intended Parents is a personal preference between the Intended parents, and surrogate.
Everyone will need to decide how much interaction they are comfortable with, and also consider how much interaction the other parties to the surrogacy expect. Our Program Director, Leia Picard will discuss your expectations regarding contact before you are matched with a Surrogate in our program. This contact will not only be during a pregnancy, but will also be post birth, after babies are here.
CFC prides itself on making the most suited match possible for all parties. Some Intended Parents like high levels of interaction; i.e., regular updates via e-mail and/or phone, and the expectation to attend as many of the medical appointments as possible. It is highly important to some Intended Parents to be “included” in the pregnancy. Similarly, some Surrogates also desire a close relationship with the Intended parents and may be disappointed if the Intended Parent’s did not maintain regular contact with them throughout the pregnancy and after baby/ies are born. Many Surrogates and Intended Parent’s hope to have a life-long friendship even after the birth, and some correspond throughout the life of the child. While a close relationship works for some, Other Intended Parents and Surrogates commit to a fairly low level of contact such as occasional updates, pictures, and/or phone calls – but do not necessarily have a close relationship. This type of Surrogacy is more of a “business arrangement.” Some Intended Parents may not be able to (or may choose not to) attend doctor appointments and may not see the Surrogate very often (or at all) throughout the pregnancy. A lot of Surrogates may also prefer this type of relationship because they may already have their hands full in their own lives, and may not desire an overly close relationship with their Intended Parents. Before entering into contract together, it is important that the Intended parents and Surrogate decide what level of contact they prefer before they are matched.
Canadian Fertility Consultants also works with many clients who live abroad, and so when looking at contact levels, commitment to each other during the pregnancy, and after, it is important to look at ways that CFC can support the relationship, given the distance. Often with a great distance between parties, we rely on Skype, Facetime, emails, and phone calls to update each other. CFC is happy to provide your surrogate with space in our Brighton office to connect with her Intended parents throughout the journey.
For further information on how Canadian Fertility Consultants can help you maintain a strong relationship with your surrogate, please email us at info@fertilityconsultants.ca Or by calling our office at 613 439 8701