Canadian Fertility Consultants – As many of our clients know, I have been an egg donor several times, and am often asked by clients, friends, colleagues, “How will I know who these children become”, “What if they become sick, and need bone marrow, blood transfusions, or other treatment best provided from a genetic family member?”
For every egg donor who is open about the fact that they were an egg donor, I am sure the answer is different- as we all process things differently, and depending on the situation, we as donors may have known, semi known, or anonymous donations.
In becoming a donor, I did a lot of research, wanting to ensure that I had answered all of the “what if’s”, not only for myself, but for my children also. I have always been open with my kids about my egg donations, and wanted to be able to answer their “what if’s” as well.
In my research, I came across an amazing site, https://www.donorsiblingregistry.com/. This site is essentially a database where a donor, or a parent of donor conceived child can anonymously connect. As a donor I decided that I would register on this site, and also would put in the legal agreement I have with intended parents of anonymous cycles, this information, in case they too would later want answers to their, or their children’s “what ifs”.
As a donor, three of my donations were known, and three anonymous. I am still somewhat in contact with the intended parents of the known ones, however for the anonymous donations, of the three, one intended parent has contacted me through the site https://www.donorsiblingregistry.com/. It was important for Mom to meet me, as her daughter was growing up, and she was starting to have questions. It was great to meet her, and her daughter- who looked just like my girls. I was so pleased to know that Mom felt comfortable asking me questions, and that I knew if my kids also had these questions, I would be able to connect back with her to ask, along with the other families I had helped through my donations.
Having been a donor was such an indescribable, amazing experience. Knowing that I was able to prove to the world that I truly have the most amazing kids, and, sharing that gift with others was my way to prove it!!!
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